Spinster’s Guide® to 10 Ways for Overcoming a Bad Date

Dearest Reader,

A bad date can be soul crushing.   All that preparation, excitement and hope…  Maybe he was staring at the woman in the next booth or he made some sexist comment or he accidentally-on-purpose forgot his wallet.  You come home wrung-out and sad because you thought it would be different this time.  Here are some ideas to get you out of that post-bad-date slump:

*Read The Spinster’s Guide® to Dating.  You can get the digital copy in 5 minutes!  It’s packed with funny and heartwarming dating stories, quotes, statistics, cartoons, etc. to make you laugh and forget all about your crappy evening.

*Talk to a friend.  I’ve asked my sister to take 1 minute and tell me all the reasons I should not feel sad about a bad date.  I felt totally renewed after those 60 seconds.

*Write in a journal.  I’ve written letters, with absolutely no intention of sending them, about why I’m so upset, hurt, and disappointed.  It’s very cathartic!

*Read:  It’s Called a Break Up Because It’s Broken.  The book is by a former writer of Sex and the City​, and his wife.  It’s hilarious and uplifting with stories about psycho-breakups. You have the comfort of knowing, you may be a mess but not that big of a mess.

*Go for a walk or run.  The rhythm and pumping of blood make one feel more centered.

*Listen to a funny podcast or book.  If you like true crime, My Favorite Murder might be a good choice.  If you want to dip into politics, Real Time with Bill Maher is an option.

*Organize a closet or your drawers.  There is something soothing in putting your possessions in order.

*Clean.  Use some good smelling cleaning supplies and have at it.  I always include a goblet of wine and some big band music.

*Self-care.  Condition your hair, paint your nails, pluck your eyebrows or sit in a hot tub.  Do something to make you feel cared for because he certainly did not.

*What did you learn from the date?  What went wrong?  Was anything your fault?  Look at it as a learning experience for the future.

Lastly, good for you for getting out there!  You’re being bold and living your life.  And that, dear reader, is a very good thing.
 
Love,
M.J.